11 Tips for When Kids Won’t Tell You What is Wrong With Them

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Every parent knows that there are times when an unhappy child simply won’t say what’s bothering them. Knowing that something is bothering your child with no clues about what that might be is a frustrating situation; here are ten tips to help you handle it.

  1. Be Patient – Though it can be difficult, give your child a little bit of time to process. Chances are, they’ll come to you on their own once they’ve had time to think about it. In this scenario, patience is definitely key.
  2. Talk to a Sibling – Your other children know more than you may realize. Talking to them might give you some insight, especially if your troubled child is facing something serious enough that their sibling is concerned.
  3. Look For Clues – Keep your eyes peeled for any clues you can find. A child who never wants to go to school might just be a normal kid with no worries aside from getting out of class; then again, she might be reluctant to go to school because she’s being bullied there. If your child seems to be more anxious at certain times, or to be avoiding specific places, try to make a connection between them.
  4. Don’t Get Frustrated – Though it’s very easy to get so worried for your child that you become frustrated, remember that showing that frustration is almost sure to make them shut down and retreat even farther into themselves. Try to be as calm as possible.
  5. Encourage Them – Sometimes kids need be re reassured that they can talk to you about anything without fear of judgment. Gently reminding them that you’re always available to talk and then dropping the subject so that they don’t feel pressured could help them find the courage to talk.
  6. Rule Out as Many Possibilities as You Can – If your child is six, he’s probably not struggling with peer pressure to drink or do drugs. Still, ruling out the possibility can help you narrow down the possibilities of what could be bothering them.
  7. Have a Meeting With Their Teacher – If after a few days your child still seems anxious or upset and hasn’t spoken with you, it might be a good idea to call a meeting with their teacher. Because your child spends the bulk of their day with them, they might have some insight.
  8. Check For Signs of Bullying or Abuse – Bruises and scrapes are all part of childhood. However, if your child seems to have too many or can’t explain their origins, they might be the victim of bullying.
  9. Consider Their Need for Privacy –If you’ve ruled out abuse, bullying and other serious problems, it’s important to consider your child’s need for privacy. While it can be tempting to snoop or pry; they’ll only feel that they can’t trust you if they find out you did.
  10. Suggest That They Talk to Someone Else – A problem that isn’t going away and isn’t being discussed might be cause for serious concern. If your child absolutely refuses to talk to you and you suspect that they’re in real trouble, it might be best to ask them if there’s anyone they do feel comfortable speaking with. Though it might hurt a little to know that they aren’t ready to talk to you, it’s important that you never make your child feel guilty for wanting to speak with someone else.
  11. Consider the Possibility of Abuse. Researching the signs of physical, sexual and emotional abuse can help you determine whether your child’s problem is the stuff of typical childhood drama or something much more serious. If you suspect abuse or bullying, it’s important to handle it quickly.
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